Essential Qualities of an Tantric Masseur
- Kenneth
- Nov 7, 2024
- 4 min read
Here in Sydney, I often get inquiries from men asking if I’m hiring or if they can learn tantric massage from me. I usually decline these requests, so please, don’t ask. My refusal isn’t due to arrogance or fear of competition. It’s because I believe that only 20% of being a good masseur can be taught, such as techniques and conversation skills. The remaining 80% depends on innate talent and personal qualities. I believe men need these three traits to become good masseurs. Without these, no amount of teaching can make you a good masseur. Without further ado, let me reveal them.
1. Strong Self-Control and Patience
Men and women’s climax mechanisms are different.
Men are straightforward creatures, especially when faced with temptation. Most men will immediately activate their primal desires and rush straight to their goal. Simple, rough, and direct. However, women are quite the opposite; they are more complex and nuanced.
Women need a wave-like approach, with advances and retreats, ebbs and flows. Like a beautiful piece of music or a delightful dining experience, there must be a buildup, transitions, and the right atmosphere to bring them to their peak. Women need about twenty minutes to gradually build intimacy and familiarity with their partner, then slowly get into the mood and enjoy the tantric massage. Imagine if your favorite song only played the climax part or if a Michelin-star meal skipped the appetizers, drinks, elegant environment, and service, leaving only water and the main course. It’s not that it’s entirely unacceptable, but the overall experience would be greatly diminished.
An excellent masseur needs strong self-control and patience. They must control themselves and their minds (both upper and lower). They should not be tempted by the woman’s body or rush the pace due to her reactions. An excellent masseur understands that they are the conductor of the session. They won’t speed up the rhythm due to the audience’s cheers or change the order of dishes due to the diners’ expectations. Even if the woman is highly sensitive and responsive, the masseur should follow their pace to complete the massage. This is a true test of self-control and patience.
2. Attentive Observation and Empathy
Women are generally more reserved with strangers and may not speak much. In a tantric massage setting, women are often more nervous, making it hard for them to directly express their needs or preferences in bed (that’s just too shy, right? 😳). An excellent masseur will use various trials to observe the woman’s reactions and adjust their massage techniques to provide the desired pleasure.
You can try firmly holding the woman’s wrist against the bed. The wrist is a great spot — it’s not as fatal as choking, but it can evoke a strong sense of conquest. If the woman has submissive tendencies, she will feel controlled, showing compliance, and the man can follow the S/M path to provide more stimulation. You can also try using your fingertips to trace her back or kiss her shoulders near the neck. If she reacts well, those are her sensitive spots, and you can focus more on those areas.
An excellent masseur has various probing techniques and combines this with a keen understanding of the female body and attentive observation. This way, even if the woman doesn’t speak, the masseur can guess her sensitive spots and preferences, achieving true empathy. Maintaining empathy and understanding the woman’s perspective is another essential quality. For example, I never ask a woman to undress immediately upon entering the room for a massage. I understand that entering an unfamiliar room and meeting an unfamiliar man will make her nervous. Accepting a tantric massage with such nervousness won’t bring any pleasure; she’ll just be overwhelmed with anxiety. So, I usually chat with the woman for 10–15 minutes, allowing her to get to know me better and relax a bit, preparing her for the massage without any worries.
3. Sunny and Clean Appearance
As stated in the movie “The God of Cookery,” a top chef should consider every aspect of the diner’s experience. If the appearance is too poor, affecting the diner’s appetite is a crime. The same principle applies to a tantric masseur. If the masseur’s appearance isn’t good enough, most women will be deterred and won’t want any contact with the masseur. Therefore, an excellent masseur should maintain a good physique, exercise regularly, and keep a clean appearance, providing women with a sense of comfort, health, and sunny attractiveness.
Strong self-control and patience, attentive observation and empathy, and a sunny, clean appearance are qualities I possess and continuously strive to improve. If you happen to be in Sydney and want to experience a different kind of massage or if your relationship with your partner lacks harmony, feel free to book a tantric massage with me. It might add a new dimension to your monotonous life. When choosing a tantric masseur, choose the most professional and dedicated one.
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Yoni Spa Sydney
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